I wrote this on Wendy's first birthday. I love it. I wish I had written her one this year. It's not too late, right? Maybe that will be my next post. But for now, I wanted to put this up. Think of it as a sample of my work and a preview of what you will be getting when I really get this blog ball rolling.
One year ago right now I was marveling at you. You had beautiful tiny toes and pretty little ears and you gazed right into my eyes and I knew you right then. You were the most perfect person I'd ever met. The first thing I said when you finally came out was "I can't believe I did it." I still can't believe it. I had a feeling then and now, after a year, I know for sure that I didn't do it on my own. You helped me. You worked with me. You felt my pain and you were trying your hardest to make it end too. The moment I first held you, the pain and weariness of the previous 18 hours completely left my body. More than that, all the pain I'd ever harbored vanished. You made everything bad that had ever happened to, by, or through me completely better. I'd been waiting for you my entire life. Not just any baby-- you.
I look at these pictures and even though I lived every moment of it, I can't begin to wrap my brain around it. Before you I could waste away a year like nothing in the world mattered. With you in my life, every day is important. Every day that I get to spend being your mother is a gift that you give me. Every morning that I wake up and you are still in my life, whether you wake up smiling or crying, I know that no matter what happens, it's going to be a good day. I have someone to give all of my love to who will love me back with all of her being, just because. But you should also know that I will never stop trying or working for your love, I will never take it for granted, because I can't help but feeling that it's something I should have to earn. The way I see it, I will forever be in your debt.
You may never understand how amazing you are. I don't know that anyone can ever see themselves the way a loving mother sees them. You are amazing because you came from me, and I know you're made of me and your Daddy, but somehow you're more than that. You're a tiny person who chose me to protect you and nurture you and teach you. I will always protect and nurture and teach you every day of my life.
I want you to know, to really understand, that my love for you is and always will be unconditional. Not because it's a law of nature, but because I know how precious your life is. You are a treasure. You are a gift to the entire world. You are bright and smart and loving and wonderful, and no matter how dim life's circumstances may get, I have seen and known that person to be inside of you from the start. I felt it when you were in my womb and I saw it first when I looked into your eyes the day you were born. I hope above all hope that you just find that person within yourself one day and never lose hope or faith in you. I never will.
Happy birthday, Wendy. I will always celebrate this day as the day that I first felt true, all-encompassing pain, and true, all-encompassing love. I'll never forget the lessons this day taught me, and I'm sure with each yearly celebration my love for you will only continue to grow and surprise me, just as you do.
We Moved!!!
13 years ago